Self-sabotage. Something we are all guilty of at some point in our lives.
Quick story for you. I’m not super proud of this… but I totally used to be the person who had every minute of my day planned (good ol traits of being a Virgo they say ;)).
My days were literally full to the brim. I thought busy meant productive and hustling/grinding was a badge of honor, but I was actually self-sabotaging.
I spent 10 years of my life like this… and in the process my health, energy, and personal relationships all took a nosedive. Not good.
The worst part was, I wasn’t even accomplishing what I wanted to in my work. Have you ever been busy all day and still felt like you got nothing done? That’s how I used to feel everyday.
I wanted a magical life where I made a real impact… but I had every moment planned with tasks that kept me busy and didn’t support this vision. Do you see the problem?
What I realized is I had to be more selfish so I could be more selfless.
I had to get radical about who and what I was spending my time on. It was like clearing my fridge when I start a new eating plan, except I needed to clear out my life. People, places, and activities that did not grow me had to go.
Are you ready to let magic into your life too like I was?
If you said yes, then it’s time for you to do a life clean up. Here are three practical ways you can do this:
- Carve out time for yourself, even if it’s just 15 minutes. I recommend doing this first thing in the morning (before you get distracted), or in the afternoon so you can get an energetic reset and finish the day strong. Consider filling the time with a soul fit practice.
- Identify good and bad habits in your life, and devise a plan to up the good and decrease the bad. For example, if going out to drink/dance on Friday night sets you up for being “off track” on your health plan over the weekend, can you change this? How about seeing those friends during the week instead for a low-key dinner, or trading the bar for a health-promoting activity like a hike?
- Evaluate who is in your inner circle and adjust accordingly. You will have to plug into someone else’s oxygen at some point so make sure you’re surrounded by people who can help you learn and grow, and limit your time with those people who bring you down.
You heard me right, I’m giving you permission to be “selfish.” You deserve to have magic in your life, and it starts with actually creating the space for it to come in. You got this.
P.S. When I mentioned clearing out that which doesn’t serve you from your life, what came to mind for you to clear first? I’d love to hear – leave a comment below and let me know!